How did it all start?

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Sophor
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How did it all start?

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It's a topic I tend to gravitate towards when I talk with people about this.
How did you get into chastity?
How old were you and in what situation did you notice that you were interested in having your crotch locked away?
When were you having your first actual experiences?

I hope this will create some interesting discussions, I am looking forward to see your replies
molly
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Sophor wrote:How did you get into chastity? How old were you and in what situation did you notice that you were interested in having your crotch locked away? When were you having your first actual experiences?
My blog here and I answer in greater detail than I'll put here.

For my husband and I, it's a kinky game where control and access of my "crotch" as you put it was 100% transferred to him and 100% removed from me. It's his and he can do whatever he wants, as long as there aren't safety or health concerns. I've been belted since the moment we consummated our marriage the first night. We had sex before marriage but the belt was locked on only after we tied the knot. We've been married 19 years as of this past June. He unlocks it anytime he wants intercourse (or I beg for intercourse) and as you probably know sex isn't always about intercourse.

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Wendy
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Very interesting question!

I discovered the chastity belts thanks to a website I will call "Star.com". There were just pictures and videos on it, but I was captivated by them. I started following it in 2012. One day, in January 2014, I decided to order my own belt and bra.
In February 2014, everything began: I received my belt and bra, I tried them, and I just loved the feeling of being in steel! I started getting used to my armor, and I finished by wearing it all the time (except cleaning breaks).
In July 2015, Star.com sold me a thick collar: I love it and I wore it all the time.
In February 2016, I ordered a My-Steel belt. I started shooting in March. I got my My-Steel bra in April 2016. I got my hyperthick collar in August 2016.

There is nothing linked to my boyfriend (I am single). My chastity belt is mainly worn for shoots and to be safe against sexual agressions.
Star.com wanted me as a model when he saw my swim and the amazing feedback it got. But for many reasons (I will not detail since this will be off-topic), we broke-up. I can't wear my armor all the time anymore because of my shoots, but my body kept the marks.
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Anoetic
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I remember when I was 9 my mom went to a bachelorette party. There were prizes for the little games they played and my mom won one of the prizes. I remember she brought home this little rectangle box and was laughing about it before she out it in a junk cupboard. I was never one to stay out of places I shouldn't go so I snuck into the cupboard when she wasn't home and opened the box. Inside was this weird metal triangle that was painted blue and yellow and had a lightning bolt cut out in the center with chains attached to each corner and to each other (very similar to the link) I took it out and realized it looked like panties so I slid it on. Being a novelty item it was very small and obviously not meant for an adult woman to wear. More for amusement, but it fit my small body. I wore it for months on and off until my mom found it and threw it away.
When I was older the movie Robin Hood men in tights came out and I remember when Maid Marion got out of the tub and she had her "everlast" chastity belt on I thought it looked so beautiful and wanted one. I also remember it turning me on.
As I got older more and more often I found myself looking for them online or for stories about them. I knew I had to have one. Eventually I bought one (a chinese made) and although I loved wearing it i found it very painful due to improper fit. I then bought a midlevel belt and it was better but still not right. Now for my third one I decided "fuck it" and am just going to get a custom belt

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mcswitchy
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KittyDenied, Belted Pet, and Kratz Katz have shared their "chastity: origins" stories over at http://www.discerningspecialist.com/art ... ing-to-you.

Excerpts:

KittyDenied:
My first exposure to the idea of female chastity belts was in school. I remember learning about the spanish inquisition, and all the torture devices and somehow chastity belts were lumped in with those. I remember being horrified and then going home and masturbating furiously to the idea of being locked up and not able to touch myself. I think the whole concept was to prevent women from being raped, but I immediately saw that it would also prevent the wearer from touching herself. I spent lots of time thinking up scenarios where I would need to be locked up - like maybe I was caught playing with myself, or maybe I was being punished in the stockade and needed spankings, but my holes needed protection from unsupervised use. Since then, historians have proven that female chastity belts never really existed, and were probably just an idea from some old pervert but it’s always been a super hot idea in my mind.
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I think that this fetish is somewhat rare, and misunderstood so people don’t really know where to start with it. I think this notion of 24/7 wear actually scares girls away from trying belts. I often see the logic of male chastity devices applied to female chastity belts and it drives me crazy. Since men can wear their devices 24/7 they think women should be able to be belted 24/7 as well. There are so many reasons why this is flawed logic and even counterproductive to getting girls to try belts, but to sum it up- men can wear their devices because it doesn’t wrap around the whole body. It’s smaller and fits much differently than a female chastity belt. I don’t want to get too far into this topic, but there are also mental and emotional aspects involved, as well as sex drive, hormones, and motivation for wearing the belt. For example, a male may enjoy the degradation of their “tiny cock nobody wants,” but a female may be motivated to wear her belt because she is her Dom’s possession and feels valued and protected. If he locks her up and never takes the belt off to fuck her, she may feel rejected and in the long run this is going to be a bad thing. Additionally, for females very long term belt wear could affect sex drive. Meaning, if she’s belted too long there may be a point where she stops wanting sex at all. Nobody wins in that scenario.
Belted Pet:
I browsed a lot of BDSM stuff when I was younger. I loved bondage more than anything. Chastity was just a part of a few scenes I saw. It didn't click at first, but by the time I was 16 I delved into that rabbit hole and it became a thing for me. For others? I don't care. I have no interest in others in chastity. The idea of having a girlfriend who is in the same situation makes me feel less alone, and it seems like a good relationship with a controlling dom if he has multiple submissives. But male chastity is a no go, only because male submissiveness is even more of a turn off than CSPAN.
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If you're a keyholder for a woman, be reasonable. Don't set unrealistic explanations. But using chastity to assert your dominance is an incredible way to play. Locking the belt on and leaving it there is pretty boring. Make her do chores. Fuck her in new ways. Leaving it on should only be as an extension of play, 'chastity sessions' alone are boring. If you're a woman who wants to try out chastity, I mean.. do it. Just don't set unrealistic expectations for yourself like 24/7 play or you're going to become disenfranchised to the whole experience and how much fun it can otherwise be.
Kratz Katz:
The first time I saw an actual chastity belt was a picture on Tumblr of a beautiful purple-haired model wearing a FancySteel belt. Seeing this pushed so many buttons for me. I remember immediately sending it to my partner and starting a conversation about chastity. Of course He'd already seen loads of chastity porn and wasn't as overwhelmed as I. I had heard about chastity belts from medieval times before but as naive as I was I never thought that something like this could really exist today.
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I'm frequently asked things like "what's the longest you've gone without sex/orgasm" or "what's the longest you've been locked up" and I get really annoyed with these questions. It's important to me to emphasise that chastity play is NOT a competition! I know that particularly males tend to do these challenges to go a certain amount of time locked up. This concept doesn't appeal to me (and most other female chastity girls I've spoken to). I love the idea that my partner can use me whenever He wants and I get nothing out of it. I'm a living sex toy which is a dream coming true for me! If He chooses to use me three times a day, then so be it. If He doesn't want to use me for a week, then there's nothing I can do about it either. Chastity play makes me so desperate for sexual stimulation and willing to do the most humiliating or painful things simply to get an orgasm. I love when my partner makes fun of me for being such a desperate slut. Lastly, I'd like to say a few words on unrealistic standards set by the online community. Most of the people babbling about chastity play online don't have a clue about the reality of it. You don't have to go 24/7 with the chastity belt right away. I myself slowly adjusted from wearing it a few hours a day to only taking it off at night and now wearing it almost 24/7. Of course I take it off if my real life activities require it. In my mind, the most important thing is that all parties involved are having fun whether you wear the belt a few hours for a session or all the time.
There's more over at the discerningspecialist blog.
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This post moved as it accuses a member! :twisted:
molly
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I have to disagree Wendy. Just because those women shared different motivations, opinions, and experiences doesn’t in any way invalid what they said. There’s no “true way” in this kink or any kink.

I also wouldn’t use a dead or blank page by itself to determine the credibility of a website. Maybe it was an oversight or maybe something is wrong technically? Maybe it's a placeholder?

Now if you said it wasn’t pleasant to read the site-owner’s (discerningspecialist) comment at the bottom of that page where he basically said you and I fakes, I could agree with you because it wasn’t pleasant to read. But, he’s entitled to his opinion and it is what it is. If anyone lives their lives through other people's eyes they'll never be happy and that's what it's all about - our own, very personal brand of happy.

It’s really not worth getting upset over. It’s the internet.
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Apologies.

I removed my post by myself.
Last edited by Wendy on 23 Mar 2018, 00:37, edited 2 times in total.
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KittyDenied
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kenryu wrote:This post moved as it accuses a member! :twisted:
Wait.. so the mods removed all the context where you were responding to a bunch of garbage written about you, then wrote FOR you? AS YOU? LOL

I've never seen anything like that! They even included a little angry devil face... HAHAHAH

Makes it look like you just randomly showed up in here and "accused" people of things... which is NOT the case, but whatever... YOU DESERVE SHAME!

Thats a whole new level of passive aggressive, and I'm fascinated. The least they could do is log back in as you and write "removed" instead of "moved".. I think thats a typo, lol.


(PS: not an accusation if its true)
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