Hello, I'm a male dominant. My submissive is fascinated with chastity, she absolutely loves the idea of being locked up, denied and controlled on a long term basis. For my side, orgasm control has been a kink for a long time, but I focused mostly on the mental aspects with training and conditioning. I've discovered that I also quite like the physical aspects of chastity for the same reasons I like the mental ones, and I can tell female chastity will be an indispensable tool for orgasm training. We're both very much interested in chastity.
I would very much appreciate some help deciding on two chinese/inexpensive belts to get us started with chastity. I've pored over the offerings on aliexpress, Ebay, spices and dhgate, as well as the more serious manufacturers like fancysteel. I've been lurking here as well.
My girl is short with wide hips and a rather gifted derriere, and a comparatively small waist. She seems to prefer the waist style, and her intuitions have served me well in the past. We're concerned with comfort and long term wearability. Her lifestyle is sedentary, concealment is preferable (but not a priority concern).
I'm considering the heart shaped belt, the chinese clone of fancysteel's active cable style belt, and a t-shaped rear thong belt with ergonomic waistband I've found on Ebay. I'd like the first two to include a thong type rear and a rear eye, as I think the thong type will make bathroom use for number two the easiest for my girl, but I want to have both for her comparison.
I'm fairly crafty with toys and equipment, so modifications should be no problem after I have a solid grasp on female chastity mechanics. I'd like to make my own female chastity devices someday.
Apologies for the long rambling post... I hope I've included enough information to get some good advice.
Need help getting started with female chastity
Re: Need help getting started with female chastity
Chinese belts are great to begin with. I bought mine there: http://spicesforlove.com/index.php?main ... cts_id=342
Later, a My-Steel belt is wxhat I recommend the most.
Later, a My-Steel belt is wxhat I recommend the most.
Retired chastity expert. You can find advice for newbies on my blog: https://wendywarrior-battlefield.blogsp ... dvice.html
Re: Need help getting started with female chastity
Thank you, Wendy.
After some time measuring, I gave my girl a choice of two belts from all those I had found.
She chose this one: https://rover.ebay.com/rover/0/0/0?mpre ... 2299641240
Which satisfies trying out the rear thong design. We were unable to choose between this:
https://rover.ebay.com/rover/0/0/0?mpre ... 2832590889
And this:
https://rover.ebay.com/rover/0/0/0?mpre ... 2740161920
For trying out the anal eye design.
After we have a better idea of my girl's preferences in design for long term wear, I will consider buying a belt from a better manufacturer, or if possible, I will make one myself using the posted guides.
Suggestions?
After some time measuring, I gave my girl a choice of two belts from all those I had found.
She chose this one: https://rover.ebay.com/rover/0/0/0?mpre ... 2299641240
Which satisfies trying out the rear thong design. We were unable to choose between this:
https://rover.ebay.com/rover/0/0/0?mpre ... 2832590889
And this:
https://rover.ebay.com/rover/0/0/0?mpre ... 2740161920
For trying out the anal eye design.
After we have a better idea of my girl's preferences in design for long term wear, I will consider buying a belt from a better manufacturer, or if possible, I will make one myself using the posted guides.
Suggestions?
Re: Need help getting started with female chastity
I made my current chastity belt. I can help you to make one.
I would recommend you to try the one with the anal plug. It can be removed, and shapes look much better. Avoid superthin belts.
I would recommend you to try the one with the anal plug. It can be removed, and shapes look much better. Avoid superthin belts.
Retired chastity expert. You can find advice for newbies on my blog: https://wendywarrior-battlefield.blogsp ... dvice.html
Re: Need help getting started with female chastity
Thanks for your advice! Is there any reason in particular to avoid thin belts?
And I would very much appreciate your help making a belt. Once I get a better grasp of the mechanics of female chastity, that will likely become a priority.
And I would very much appreciate your help making a belt. Once I get a better grasp of the mechanics of female chastity, that will likely become a priority.
Re: Need help getting started with female chastity
Why you should avoid thin belts: P=F/S
The force the belt applies will be the same. A thinner belt gives a smaller surface, so more pressure. Either the wearer suffers more, or you loosen the belt: unsafe in both cases.
I made my Heart Belt.You can see it in this topic: https://www.beltedgirls.com/forum/viewt ... f=20&t=704
Although crafting a chastity belt sounds easy, it is long and hard. I proceeded with a friend. We had to measure my body. We used it to cut bands at the right length. Drilling all holes (locking and urination) was long, and stainless steel is hard to drill/cut.
We have worked on it for about 1-2 weeks, that was so long. And I got the best chastity belt I have ever worn!
The force the belt applies will be the same. A thinner belt gives a smaller surface, so more pressure. Either the wearer suffers more, or you loosen the belt: unsafe in both cases.
I made my Heart Belt.You can see it in this topic: https://www.beltedgirls.com/forum/viewt ... f=20&t=704
Although crafting a chastity belt sounds easy, it is long and hard. I proceeded with a friend. We had to measure my body. We used it to cut bands at the right length. Drilling all holes (locking and urination) was long, and stainless steel is hard to drill/cut.
We have worked on it for about 1-2 weeks, that was so long. And I got the best chastity belt I have ever worn!
Retired chastity expert. You can find advice for newbies on my blog: https://wendywarrior-battlefield.blogsp ... dvice.html
Re: Need help getting started with female chastity
That makes perfect sense. My girl is very tolerant of some types of discomfort but not others. I may attempt to craft a cable style belt if I see a need for one. A resource for chastity specific parts and pieces would be very nice to look over... but I shouldn't put the cart ahead of the horse.
I've seen your thread, and your custom belt is very impressive. I have a lot of questions about how it was made and your material and tool selection, but they may be better suited to the modification subforum or PM. I'll be patient, as difficult as it is. I'd very much like to make a few. It certainly doesn't seem easy, but the custom fit and cost effectiveness may be worthwhile. I'm not scared of long projects or difficult work.
I've seen your thread, and your custom belt is very impressive. I have a lot of questions about how it was made and your material and tool selection, but they may be better suited to the modification subforum or PM. I'll be patient, as difficult as it is. I'd very much like to make a few. It certainly doesn't seem easy, but the custom fit and cost effectiveness may be worthwhile. I'm not scared of long projects or difficult work.
Re: Need help getting started with female chastity
You seem to be great to craft chastity belts!
In time, you can contact me by email or start a thread in the right section. For your information, you can watch my rough steps to make my belt: https://wendywarrior-battlefield.blogsp ... -belt.html
Thank you!
You should check which style of belts sutis your sub:
- which width of band (are wires enough on her waist? does she need wide, thick steel bands? ...),
- which anal system (single wire between buttcheeks, double chains running on buttcheeks, continuous band with anal hole, ...),
- plugs need to be planned too, some styles don't allow the belt to be plugged,
- how tight the belt should be.
In time, you can contact me by email or start a thread in the right section. For your information, you can watch my rough steps to make my belt: https://wendywarrior-battlefield.blogsp ... -belt.html
Thank you!
You should check which style of belts sutis your sub:
- which width of band (are wires enough on her waist? does she need wide, thick steel bands? ...),
- which anal system (single wire between buttcheeks, double chains running on buttcheeks, continuous band with anal hole, ...),
- plugs need to be planned too, some styles don't allow the belt to be plugged,
- how tight the belt should be.
Retired chastity expert. You can find advice for newbies on my blog: https://wendywarrior-battlefield.blogsp ... dvice.html
Re: Need help getting started with female chastity
Thanks again for all your help, Wendy.
Now begins the long wait for Chinese shipping... it's too bad nobody keeps these things stateside for a reasonable price.
I'll definitely be back to ask questions about your belt construction when I have some more experience.
Now begins the long wait for Chinese shipping... it's too bad nobody keeps these things stateside for a reasonable price.
I'll definitely be back to ask questions about your belt construction when I have some more experience.